As a 21-year-old male who knew that male pattern baldness ran in his family, it’s something that you don’t really accept is going to happen until the early signs begin to set in.
That was exactly what happened to me.
It’s devastating for anyone to have to deal with something and not be able to do anything about it. You become desperate and will spend hours scouring the internet looking for remedies and solutions to stop it from happening.
From shampoos to foods, to tablets, to surgery. There are a number of things that you can find that will give you that glimmer of hope and to be honest, I did try some of them. Obviously there’s very little that these things can give you other than a bit of false hope unless you were to go down the surgery route which is the most expensive of all the options, but even then there isn’t a guarantee it will be successful.
Years passed and the signs become more and more apparent yet I did my best to cover it up. My confidence was absolutely shattered and I had gone from being a pretty outgoing guy who didn’t really have much trouble with the ladies to a recluse who sat and played computer games most of my free time. I just couldn’t deal with it until one day something clicked…..
Why was I wasting so much of my time focusing on something that was pretty much completely out of my control?
It seemed completely logical, but I had got so hung up on basing my confidence around my hair that I had let things that I could control completely slip and I had become out of shape and unhappy.
From that day I decided it was time to get myself into a new mindset and started the gym in order to get my body back in shape.
I had always had a goal to achieve a six pack at some point in my life but had sort of dismissed it by the time I hit late teens.
By this point, I was around 25 and thought that time would be past, but I thought I would give it a go anyway.
Throwing myself into the gym, I was pretty self concious to begin with simply because my confidence levels were low and I was in an unfamiliar surrounding. Soon I realised that nobody else really cared what I was up to and everyone has to start somewhere. To say I threw myself into the gym was an understatement, more like plunged myself into it spending every spare moment that I could learning about it outside of gym time.
Soon my physique started to change and more importantly my confidence began to rise again. It wasn’t near the levels it was before, but it was on the right track. I began being more outgoing again and enjoying myself, although I still hadn’t come to terms with my hair loss yet and covered it up with the most blatant combover and a beanie to hide it from the world.
Fast forward a few years and here I am. About a year or so ago I took the biggest step and finally shaved my head. Something that was met with quite a great deal of reluctance on my part, but my confidence levels were up so high that my hair had almost become a minor detail in an overall much bigger picture.
If I’m completely honest, I don’t know if I would have ever got around to shaving my head if I hadn’t started to focus on things that I could control. My confidence levels would have remained where they are and I don’t know where I would even really be in my life. Probably still wallowing in self-pity and the recluse that I had almost become.
To anyone else suffering from issues of low confidence or even those suffering from the same issues that I went through. Focus on the things that you can control.
For those interested in getting into the gym, but don’t really know where to begin I’d love to be able to help you get started or offer my advice.